Day in and day out as we sling drinks and serve the masses we see many and I mean many mistakes made by those who are single and ready to mingle. Many people don't realize that your bar staff sees and hears EVERYTHING. You may think we are just quietly pouring your beers and delivering your food but in all reality we are probably eavesdropping. To ease the awkward tension of a first date or a chance meeting at the bar everyone has a drink or seven and that's where the trouble begins. We decided to start this blog while discussing the many mistakes (and total hotmess moments) we see daily. So why not kick it off with our 10 Commandments of dating etiquette.
1. DO NOT GET WASTED- I know that may be asking a lot of some of you, but if you are on a first date or just getting to know someone the chances of you making a ginormous ass out of yourself because you had more than enough alcohol increases by a lot. Patti Stanger has a point with that "2 drink limit" rule. Slurring and sloppy behavior is not attractive on anyone. Wait until you already have them hooked to show your best drunk self.
2. KEEP IT CLASSY- Ladies I know it's tempting to win the guys over with your sexiest (read sluttiest) outfit but honestly how long will that attention last? The night? Two days? Let's be real respect lasts a lot longer than attention does. Guys-Put away your sailor mouths and remember what gentlemanly behavior looks like. Open the door for your lady, ask her what she would like to drink or eat. Let her order first, it's very simple I promise. If you want to talk trash and drink beer and watch football do it with your homeboys and treat the lady you are courting with a little respect.
3. DESPERATION IS NEVER ATTRACTIVE- On anyone, ever. If you go to the bar with your friends or even alone go to enjoy yourself. If your main mission is to find someone the chances are everyone can smell it on you. Have fun have a drink and relax. Which leads us right into...
4. LEAVE SOMETHING TO BE DESIRED- I know it's exciting when you meet that cute guy or gal that you think may actually turn into something so let it turn into something. Don't give it all away up front. Exchange numbers and leave it at that. Everything will fall into place if you keep it simple. Don't try so hard, and for God's sake keep it in your pants on the first night. Nothing ruins a potential relationship like some slutty first night behavior. That goes for girls AND guys.
5. BRAGGERS- I do not want to hear your resume of accomplishments. From my side of the bar listening to someone go on and on about themselves makes me want to grab the bottle of Jameson and pour it down my throat. No one cares about all the great things you have done this is not an interview. This is Los Angeles we all have friends that are on TV or in that magazine or know someone that knows someone blah blah blah. Get over yourself and be real!!!!
6. CONFIDENCE- There is nothing more attractive then someone who is sure of themselves. Not arrogant but confident. We see so many people who get there before their friends and are just sitting on their phones nervously awaiting the arrival of their friends. It's ok to be at the bar alone. Get a drink, talk to the staff. Opportunity is everywhere and the more time you sit worrying what people are going to think of you the more time you are wasting. Be who you are not who you think you should be. You'll be surprised at how attractive you become to others.
7. DON'T PLAY GAMES- Ok people enough is enough. If I hear one more conversation at the bar about when I should call, text, facebook, etc I am going to pull my hair out. You are all making it way too complicated. You met, you like each other now call each other. Don't be meek but don't be overbearing. And while I'm on this subject a word to the men and women of Los Angeles.....there isn't something else out there that is so much better than what you already have. Enough with the non-committal stuff, you like the girl/guy enough to keep them around then KEEP THEM AROUND. If you don't want to commit to what you have then don't, stop half ass-ing it.
8.TECHNOLOGY- You are in public, there are people around. Put away your iwhatever and look around. Smile at someone. Or even, I know this is crazy but....talk to the person you are sitting with! If you are on a date the phone goes away. Period the end. I wait on so many couples that both sit there cruising Facebook through cocktails. You are missing out on what's going on around you. You can always read our blog later guys.
9. BODY LANGUAGE- Less is more. There's a difference between being flirty and being perceived as slutty. Being all over someone is not attractive on either side. We don't like it when guys are all over us that we barely know and ladies doing that sends one message and one message only and I think we all know what that is. Also if you are in a relationship please for the love of God do not be that couple sitting in a booth making out. You have a bedroom at home keep the foreplay in it please.
10. BAGGAGE- Leave it behind guys. You are out, you are starting over, you are taking the world by the balls!! But you can't do that if you are going on and on about your ex that cheated on you. Your future husband/wife doesn't want to sit and hear it (and for that matter neither does your bartender, that's above our pay grade). Pay a therapist to talk about your problems with that old boyfriend you can't get off your mind. We all have baggage and discussing your past is something that eventually will happen. No need to present all your crazy right off the bat. Take a little time getting to know each other before you let that freak flag fly.
That about sums it up for now. But we are always watching and most likely listening to your conversations. We will be bringing you stories of our adventures in bartending. Visit us often and don't be surprised if there are some liquor fueled posts, we need a drink from time to time as well.
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